Three Times the Violence
from Eric: “I experience this many times, every day.”
My youngest daughter was diagnosed with an Intellectual Disability in 1998. At the time I was not aware of how much hatred existed towards children and adults based solely on IQ score. A quick Internet search of the words retard and retarded turned me into a hate speech advocate overnight.In 2010, I created Family Member Inc., a 501c3 advocacy organization that works to ensure that all people living with special needs and disabilities are represented fairly and accurately in news, entertainment and social media.Our mission is to erase the negative stereotypes about disability that exist today, starting with language. We work to educate people that it is not acceptable to use slurs like the r-word as they only marginalize and make a mockery of the disability community.At Family Member we believe that words have power and can hurt others. Words matter. We teach others how to stand up and speak out when they hear negative language about disability. When you talk about someone with Down Syndrome, or Cerebral Palsy or Autism, don’t say that they suffer from these disorders. It’s important to remember that people live with their disability as productive members of society and need to be portrayed as such.We have had great success, but still have much work to do. When we started out Facebook didn’t even list disability as an option for reporting offensive pages and groups. Now, thanks to Family Member they do. Facebook used to have groups with these hateful names; Kill All Retards, I Like Stealing from Blind People, Eating Tards, and comments on these pages such as “I like hitting retards with brooms.” While these groups have been removed thanks to reporting by the Family Member community, we must be vigilant in our efforts to remove the new hate filled pages that continue to pop up. It’s a bit like playing whack-a-mole. One hateful group gets removed and two pop up in their place.
In 2010, disability was not on the ADL’s radar. The groups they listed as targets for cyberbullying did not include disability. After meeting with representatives from the ADL, disability is not only included but I sit on the ADL’s Education Committee, helping to eliminate bullying and hate in our schools.
Family Member has also been successful in getting hateful websites targeting children with Down Syndrome removed from the web. Videos on YouTube depicting a man with an Intellectual Disability being abused at his place of work at a car dealership in California have also been removed and the employer notified. Questions on Yahoo Answers like “Is An Abortion Cheaper if the Baby is Retarded?” have been taken down. A lot of time is spent seeking out the hate and getting it removed. At Family Member we put out a lot of fires.
In October of 2014, I traveled to Cincinnati to address the executives at P&G at their annual shareholder meeting. P&G employs Larry the Cable Guy as their Prilosec spokesperson. A search of Larry’s videos on YouTube show the comedian mocking kids with special needs and even imitating how people with Cerebral Palsy walk. In Larry’s book Git-R-Done, he thinks radio executives have forgotten where they come from and if it wasn’t for the radio personalities they would “be on the same level as the retard working the fry machine at Wendy’s.” His Christmas album includes a song called Donny the Retard. Although P&G have decided to keep Larry as their spokesperson, we are still waiting to see if he will apologize to the disability community.
All of the hate targeting children and adults with disabilities taking place online and in comedy clubs, shouldn’t just bother the disability community. It actually hurts all of us, and that’s why we have created a movement to teach people why it’s so important to speak up and stand up to hate. It’s never easy at first, but words matter. What we call people is how you treat them. I’d like to think that having a child with a disability has offered me a front row seat into a world of being an “other.” I am who I am today because of my child, and hope you can learn from her also. At Family Member we’re fighting hate and protecting the most vulnerable among us, and it feels right. Hope you’ll speak up with me.
We are asking for you to speak up when they see a person with a disability being bullied. We ask that you speak up when you hear slurs like retard and retarded. We want to engage the world to not hate and to stop disability hate speech. Words Matter, just ask someone with an Intellectual Disability.
Family Member Mission
Family Member will work to ensure that all people living with special needs and disabilities are represented fairly and accurately in news, entertainment and social media. We believe in equality and will work hard to erase the negative stereotypes that exist today. We work to ensure that each and every person living with a disability is portrayed honestly and will teach that it is not acceptable to use slurs that marginalize and make a joke out of another person's very existence.
Words have power and can hurt others. We will make it our mission that your family member will not be denigrated based on their disability.
Join our Email List
Please fill in a valid value for all required fields
Please ensure all values are in a proper format.
Are you sure you want to leave this form and resume later?
Are you sure you want to leave this form and resume later? If so, please enter a password below to securely save your form.
Save and Resume Later
Save and get link
You must upload one of the following file types for the selected field:
There was an error displaying the form. Please copy and paste the embed code again.
There was an error initializing the payment processor on this form. Please contact the form owner to correct this issue.
Please check the field:
Enter your save and resume password
http://www.formstack.com/forms/?1497550-2kpW7dszaA" title="Online Form">Online Form - Constant Contact Signup Form
Copyright © 2013 Family Member, Inc.
Crafted by Cornershop Creative
Site Map Ӏ Contact Us
Your donation to Family Member helps stop hate speech targeting people with disabilities.